Children's upbringing on land

Educational skills

Raising children righteously

We had a wild session, and my friend turned to her sixteen-year-old daughter and said to her: I forgot the nuts in the car, can you bring them? She immediately replied: After I sat down, I get up again!!!! ? No.. I can't. The mother was silent. She did not appear to be surprised or upset by her daughter’s reaction. She merely smiled and continued her conversation with me. One of my friends told me about her twenty-year-old son, how he responded to her when she asked him to buy some household needs, “Ugh, won’t you stop asking?

Why do children behave this way? What is our role to avoid such an outcome?

Children behave this way because they have learned it. When parents are busy correcting behavior and training their children to behave righteously, children learn from the educational media present in society, so bad company and the media interfere with what the scenes and series contain of disdain for morals, bullying, and raising one’s voice under the name of personal freedoms and expression. About the self.

Our educational role to avoid such situations is to:

• Role Model: This is through the actual practice of the arts of dealing by parents in their relationship with their parents, family, and children, to provide a living example of the principles they advocate, and a model of the behavior that they want their children to apply in their dealings.

• Paying attention to preparing for situations before they occur and setting expectations so that the children are guided by the behavior expected of them, such as the mother saying to the children: “At the end of the outing we will thank Daddy”; Instead of mentioning this as a reproach to the children after the outing: “You are always like this and do not give thanks for a favor.”

• Creating situations for application: so that children are encouraged and rewarded for taking the initiative to honor their parents, such as rushing to greet the parent or grandfather when he arrives and kissing his hand and head, and for the children not to hasten to eat before the parent sits down.

• Mutual respect between spouses helps children respect and obey their parents, and escalation of disputes between spouses in the presence of children must be avoided.

• Ensure that children feel love and respect, and express this through praise, kissing, and embracing.

• Educators should constantly mention the virtue of their fathers and praise them and their efforts in caring constantly in the presence of their children, and if they are dead, then have mercy on them.

We should not overlook the role of supplication for children in correcting their behavior, as the effort we make will continue to lack the grace and guidance of God Almighty.

It is appropriate for us to deal with righteousness in its general meaning. He, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “Righteousness is good character.” The practical picture of good character is good behavior, and good behavior has many forms and applications, but there are transactional basics that are the cornerstone of raising children and preparing them for righteousness, and perhaps the most important of them is :

• Extension of the face: It is necessary to pay attention to the facial expressions that children acquire and become accustomed to and which become a dominant face for them. Joyfulness and fluency in the face are the greatest messengers of positive interaction with others, in contrast to the frowning and frowning that children may acquire in some stages of their lives and continue with them if there is no He is keen to direct them to smile and have a fluent face, and he prepares for them good behavior that cheers their souls and reflects good news and happiness on their faces.

• Restraining anger and self-control: If children are raised to control behavior in the event of emotion and to differentiate between their right to be angry and to act according to what anger dictates, such as verbal aggression or other forms of expression that include assaulting or harming others, and between their right to be sad and to refuse to speak to others. others and turn their lives into grief and distress, so we have prepared them and created the basis of righteousness and good behavior.

• Respect and good speech: When there is a law in homes that prohibits insults and cursing, holds accountable for name-calling and ridicule, rewards kind words, and trains people to respect and reverence the elders, then the environment becomes fertile for the growth of righteousness.

• Feeling for others and cooperating with them: If we are keen to instill the spirit of empathy, touching and appreciating the feelings of others, and training in cooperation in dealings between family members, it will be easy for children to practice righteous behavior, including compassion, help, and benevolence.

Hence, it can be said that education in righteousness is an integrated process that deals with righteousness in its general sense of actions that include good treatment, such as being kind to one’s parents, being kind to one’s society and country, and being kind to one’s nation. They are all linked and all stem from the transaction, and so religion is the transaction.

Dr.. Sahar bint Abdul Latif Kurdi

Family and child counselor